“If you’re invested in security and certainty,
you are on the wrong planet.” 
– Pema Chödrön


The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Daigan Gaither

Feb 18, 2024

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We all have Stories, Opinions, and Ideas but we don’t have to buy into them.

In this talk, Rev. Daigan Gaither explains that as humans, our minds think; it’s just what they do. Letting go of these thoughts can become the focus of our practice.

He examines the trap of thinking that our meditation should be a certain way when our experience often does not measure up to that ideal. Or we have a moment of serenity and then become attached to making every moment measure up to that. We don’t have to chase enlightenment or enlightened people; we can just experience enlightened moments when they arise.

However, he shares that we shouldn’t be so quick to discard or suppress our stories, opinions, and ideas because they contain mountains of information that can inform our practice with our feelings about ourselves and the world around us.
Rev. Daigan Gaither (he/him) began Buddhist practice in 1995 in the Vipassana (Insight) tradition, then began studying Zen in 2003. He received Lay Ordination in 2006 where he was given the name Daigan or “Great Vow,” and received Priest Ordination in July 2011.

Daigan speaks internationally on a variety of topics, particularly around gender, sexuality, social justice, and their intersections with the Dharma. He also sits or has sat on a number of boards and committees that serve community needs and further social justice causes.

Daigan has a BA in Philosophy and Religion from San Francisco State University, and an MA in Buddhist Studies (with a chaplaincy certificate and a certificate in Soto Zen Buddhism) from the Graduate Theological Union and the Institute of Buddhist Studies. You can find out more via his website queerdharma.net. He lives in San Francisco, CA and identifies as a disabled, queer, white, cis male. Learn more at www.queerdharma.net