“If you’re invested in security and certainty,
you are on the wrong planet.” 
– Pema Chödrön


Our Self – Intimacy In The Dharma, Part 1 of 3 – Rev. Daigan Gaither

Jul 9, 2023

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Welcome to EPISODE 800!
Most Buddhist practices, such as loving-kindness and compassion, begin with ourselves. So it is with the concept of intimacy, which Daigan describes as “being authentic in the experience of the moment.”
(One sangha member frames Intimacy as “In-to-me-I-see”)

In this first of a series on intimacy, Daigan posits that we must become connected to ourselves if we are to appreciate and enjoy our connectedness with all things.
He asks us to explore questions such as:
What does it mean to be me in this moment?
What experience am I having and what’s it like to have that experience?
Do I avoid feelings of loneliness rather than experiencing them when they arise?
How do I REALLY feel about my present experience?
What do I actually enjoy sexually?
Do I believe I like something only because I think I should?
Rev. Daigan Gaither (he/him) began Buddhist practice in 1995 in the Vipassana (Insight) tradition and then began to study Zen in 2003. He received Lay Ordination in 2006 where he was given the name Daigan or “Great Vow,” and received Priest Ordination in July 2011.

Daigan speaks internationally on a variety of topics, particularly around gender, sexuality, social justice, and their intersections with the Dharma. He also sits or has sat on a number of boards and committees that serve community needs and further social justice causes.

Daigan has a BA in Philosophy and Religion from San Francisco State University, and an MA in Buddhist Studies (with a chaplaincy certificate and a certificate in Soto Zen Buddhism) from the Graduate Theological Union and the Institute of Buddhist Studies. You can find out more via his website www.queerdharma.net. He lives in San Francisco, CA and identifies as a disabled, queer, white, cis male.